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Friends cut

Friends Cut

Why do I always hate doing these?

I've been through my stats and found out some people only commented 1 (once) in my journal this year, which matches to the people I hardly recognize on my f-list.

No hard feelings, of course, but I'm here to get to know people and it's very hard to do if we don't comment each other's posts ^^;
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Friends Cut

I've done a small friends cut.

I hope there's no hard feelings, babes :(
I removed people I didn't really click with or didn't comment on my last posts.
I hope you can understand!
Foxy fox

Friends cut

As of today, I have removed some inactive accounts, people I didn't end up clicking with and haven't left a single comment to my journal for 6 months straight.

No hard feelings though ♥ it was lovely meeting you, and I hope you don't take this harshly!
Foxy fox

Intro post - last updated February 2020


My name is Florencia and I'm a Fashion Designer and Digital Content Creator from Buenos Aires, Argentina 😊 I was born on the 6th of October of 1991 (if you wanna know my age, do the math 😛) and I wanted to be a Fashion Designer ever since I was in kindergarten 😱

I'm a Libra and I've got my Moon AND Ascendant in Virgo 😂 You can imagine how I'm like with that combination! I'm also very into tarot and everything witchy 🔮

I obviously speak Spanish, and I also speak English and Japanese fluently. I studied Japanese for 13 years — I quit in December 2019.

The Current Life

I'm currently unemployed. I got fired from my previous job on June 2019 and I haven't been able to land anything since. I'm hoping I will soon though!
I work out like crazy. I got obsessed with working out ever since my ex dumped me (as a way of relieving stress and not thinking about the break up), but it's grown into something more: a lifestyle.
Therefore I train hard, 7 days a week. I go on walks every day, take body pump classes 5 days a week and attend krav maga classes 2 days a week.
I love blogging and I have a public blog where I talk about fashion and share my thoughts. It's called Flor de Blog!
I enjoy making videos for YouTube as well! But they're mostly in Spanish 🤭
I read a lot! This year (2019) I tackled 56 books! 😱 My favorite genre is self-help and self-development.
I've been going to therapy since January 2019. It's been such a lifesaver!

The Family

I moved out on my own on February 2019 which is the best decision I've EVER made.
My parents got divorced (not legally though) in 2009. Since then, dad occasionally comes over but there’s not much depth into our relationship. We have cordial conversations, but that’s it, just small talk.
I have a stray dog we adopted from the streets called Kea.
I have an uncle but I don’t really talk much to him.
My family is quite small: mom, dad, grandma (from mom’s side) and uncle. The rest of my grandmas and grandpas passed away when I was very little. No cousins as well.
I'm the closest to my mother, but she's also responsible for 80% of the fucked up things in my head. Which is why I tend to avoid her every once in a while, especially when I notice she might be most triggering to me.

The Friends

My best friends are Sae, Fuuey and Umi. The 3 of them are Swedish, living in Sweden. They’ve been with me through my worst, and I know I can count on them even if we don’t talk extensively every day.
I met the 3 of them on LJ in 2010!
I met Sae face-to-face for the first time in October 2015, in South Korea.
And I met Umi and Fuuey face-to-face in June 2017, when I visited Stockholm for the first time. Then I saw the 3 of them again back in June 2018.
Julian and Maggie are my closest friends from the Japanese group. Then I get along with pretty much everyone but we don't see each other thaaaat often.
Tsuki is one of my friends from the old 2000 days of Lolita and Gyaru LOL. We got back in touch in 2019 and we've been super close ever since!
There's also Silvi, who's childhood friends with Tsuki and started out being my "fan" XD. She started out being a follower on Instagram and now is a very close friend of mine. Tsuki, Silvi and I usually hang out once or twice a month 🤗
My college friend Gime is the only one I have left from college, and we reconnected only a few months ago!
I don't mention them that often, but I do love my former boss's daughters a lot (Ariel). Guillermina is starting her teen years (she's 12); she's closest to me and it's ridiculous just how many of my habits she picked up ever since she was a baby. Her sister Francisca is 9 years-old and she's closer to my mother.
My friend Elina is from another city and I barely see her, but she's my Instagram buddy. We met through the app and we've been talking nonstop for months! Shes' quite unconditional.
My newest friend is Marian (or Marianella) who goes to the same krav maga class that I go to :) she's a wonderful girl. I'm glad we met because I can talk to her openly about things like astrology, tarot, sex, mental illness, etc. She's very open minded and very mature girl.

The Love

I haven't been very lucky love-wise in my life.
Matias is my last ex. The relationship wasn't the worst but of course it also wasn't the best. I learnt a lot from our 6 month "relationship" though. He broke up with me in March 2019.
I tried online dating in August and I ended up meeting Christian, who seemed perfect for me but SURPRISE SURPRISE: Didn't have time for a relationship because he was work-focused 🙄 He was very good sex though. Sadly, I kind of used him to get my head out of Matias.
I went on a date with Joni, the boy who introduced me to the place where I currently do krav maga. We actually met through a dating app and then I started attending classes. He's a psychopath. The story is quite interesting and funny (sort of); you can read more about it in this tag.
I'm currently sort of dating/getting to know Ivan, who's a lovely, sweet, adorable boy who used to go to the dojo but quit krav maga classes because he broke something in his leg/knee. Here's his tag. We started talking the 20th of November super casually through Instagram and we hit it off very quickly. He's looking for something serious and is definitely not interested in playing around, so I took that as a very good sign ♥ He's a full time gamer :P and is actually creating his own video game. This kind of faded off LOL. So sad.

The Travels

I love traveling! I’ve done quite a fair amount of traveling from 2014 to 2018, both for personal vacations and for work.
For work, I’ve been 6 times to New York, 1 to Miami and 1 to Madrid. I’ve also been a lot to Paraguay and Uruguay, but considering these trips were more frequent, I honestly lost count!
For personal vacays, I’ve been to Seoul (South Korea) once, and twice to both London (UK) and Stockholm (Sweden).

The Education

I have a Bachelors in Fashion Design. I studied at a not so recognized university and tbh I kind of regret my decision. If you were to ask me nowadays, I would have studied Marketing.
I am, nevertheless, doing a series of courses to increase my knowledge in Marketing and both help my own project (explained below) and the possibility to do a job switch in the future.
I am a lifestyle blogger. I write over at Flor de Blog and my main social platform is Instagram. I’m looking forward to making this grow and, potentially, make it become my full-time job in the future. Writing, taking photos and edition are three big passions of mine.

The Tattoos

I started getting inked in April 2017. Here’s photos of my tats and links to the entries about them:

Mandala Tattoo

Shoulder Flower Tattoo

Bookworm Tattoo

Underboob Tattoo

Arm Tattoo

What I love to do

Fashion. I love dressing up and coming up with outfits in a fun way. I like to have fun with clothes so usually my style is pretty chaotic/eclectic. I seem to have two different alter egos for dressing up. I'm either a frilly, floral prints and lace princess, or a rocker girl.
Blogging. Not only on this blog, but on my public one as well. I love social media as well and connecting with others. I think blogging has opened so many doors for so many people, and has let many of us grieve, cope, heal and connect with others in a different way.
Writing. Of course. Writing is healing to me, especially when I write about something I care about.
Shopping. Can't lie to you! I love shopping and spending money on clothes, but I’m trying to change this habit ♥
Traveling. There's nothing more significant in my life than getting to know new places and re-discovering old ones.
Photography. Granted, I haven't studied my DSRL camera that much, but I do enjoy taking photos of pretty much everything.
Nerding. Because yes, that’s a thing. I love studying! I love reading about history (especially fashion history), books of philosophy, psychology and sociology. Whatever makes the critical side of my brain get activated, is welcome. I love studying languages as well, as you must have seem from my extensive list of learnt languages!
Training. I can't really call it "working out" anymore XD. I train around 14 hours a week 😱 I love it and it's quite therapeutic for me. It helps to keep my anxiety levels at a comfortable degree. I also love meditating.

The Fandom

I’m not highly invested in fandom, but the only one I’m always active about is being a Potterhead. I’m a HUGE Harry Potter fan. I’ve been to the Warner Bros Studio tour in London twice and I can’t wait to go again! I re-read all the books at least once a year, and I have as much merch as a nerdy girl can get.
I watch a lot of TV shows on Netflix, but so far my fave at the moment is Outlander. I’m also giving Game of Thrones a second chance and so far I like it! (dunno why I found it so boring a few years ago).
I love k-pop. My favorite band is SHINee and then I like EXO and BTS a lot these days. I listen to some really oldies as well; the list is extensive!
My favorite k-pop artist is obv Kibum (Key) ♥. I love his style and personality!
My favorite non-korean artist is Lady Gaga. I also like Marina and the Diamonds, Lana del Rey and Melanie Martinez as well!
I’m a hardcore bookworm. Even though I don’t have as much time to read these days, and obviously can’t make it past the 24 books challenge mark on GoodReads, I still love buying books and reading them whenever I can.

Other Sites You'll Find Me At

Good Reads
Public blog
Key gurl

Friends cut

Just letting you know I'll be doing a friends cut soon :( I hate doing these because I know some people would feel upset at me (like I sometimes did when someone I liked cut me) but lately I feel like I don't know half of my t-list. Some of you guys comment pretty often but... I just don't know what to say in your journals? With some others I haven't really connected, and it's been months since the last friending meme so.... I'M SORRY T________________T. Why do I feel so guilty? ;_; Please don't think I dislike you or that I think you're bad people!! You're all lovely and good!
Key gurl

Because this applies to friendship as well

“Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love. People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.

This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later because (listen carefully to this) the key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: the universe determines who walks into your life. It is up to YOU to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go!”
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My doggies teeth cleaning + found a new amazing agenda!

Mood: Relieved .
Listening to: ---.
Thinking: I feel like I've done something really good <3.
Weather: Starry .

The coming one is the last week of my vacations and one that will be very hectic because I will be preparing my final exams for the ooother week (week of the 29th). That's why this journal will be on hiatus for that period of time).

20/7 ~ 2/8

This just means I won't be posting as often as I usually do . I will keep reading your journals and commenting (if I have anything to say) like usual though .

Teeth Cleaning

Yesterday we sent Pina and Juka to the vet to have their teeth cleaned . They had already run lots of test analysis to check they were alright and would respond just fine to the anesthetics, but the risk was still there . I was scared as shit but thankfully everything went smoothly . The only one who had some trouble was Juka, because he is allergic to one of the components to the anesthetic, so he is still stressed over the procedure . Pina came running from the cages room running towards the reception XDDDD. She was like anything ever happened to her! It must be her thyroid medication *lol*.

She started crying and getting really anxious when she got home, though. We could barely stand it anymore. After around an hour or her crying and shuffling around, we thought that maybe she wanted to pee. She did. She peed and pooed for 20 minutes. We had COMPELTELY FORGOTTEN Pina has really strong manners, so she didn't pee or poo her cage for the whole day. She doesn't even dare to pee in the house, even though we aren't strict about it. She's just like that .

Anyway, here's a before-after picture .

Two days ago I went grocery shopping around the neighborhood with mom and found this cute agenda from 47Street , which is a widely known teen brand here in Argentina (and they basically have the best designs on agendas). They are a tad expensive, but they are worth it . I specially like the organization of this one . The only thing it's lacking is a monthly calendar, but hey, I have the one I have built myself! .

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Now I'm going to get ready because tonight I'm hanging out with Antonella, my childhood friend that now lives 5 blocks from the place where I study Japanese!
It was so nice seeing her again...! .
And she seems to be the same gentle, humble girl she used to be .

Anyway, see you after the final exams are over!

Me reading

On friendship and when to stop being so stupid

Mood: Upset.
Listening to: ---.
Thinking: 5 more days... 5 more days...
Weather: Sunny .

My post was supposed to be quite positive today but... I just feel really bitchy and upset at the moment and need to let it all out, to the point that I feel like I need advice from you guys.

I never truly lie on my journal (or twitter). I'm just the way you perceive me here: generally very positive, always looking for the good in every person and situation. And as a result of being this way, sometimes I overlook some things that shouldn't be overlooked and end up forgiving/letting pass things that shouldn't be forgiven/let pass. Basically, I feel foolish.

My nearby friends never make the effort to meet up with me when we're barely 30 minutes away from each other's place, and when we do, the things we originally planned never happen. Remember the photoshoot Wada and Cata promised me 2 years ago? Well yeah, it never happened, but we are supposed to do it this month and they haven't even contacted me ever since I ASKED THEM WHEN THEY WANTED TO DO IT AT THE BEGINING OF JUNE.

I feel like I'm not standing for myself. Like I'm not making people respect me and I'm considering my friends people who don't even move a finger to see me and catch up with life.

How is it possible that Marie and Sae, who are over another fucking continent, would meet up with me more frequently than these two if they ever had a chance to be physically close to me? And we don't even need anything complicated: bedroom, snacks and movie times starts rolling and we don't even spend 1 fucking hour planning it. We have a 5 hour difference, unni works a lot, Marinnie studies a lot, I study, do pilates, Japanese and Korean and we STILL find the time to catch up and keep in touch! I don't think they (my nearby friends) have en excuse: if they love and care about me, they WILL make a space in their lives for me, right? Well, that isn't happening, and I'm really tired of going after them, always asking "hey, when can we meet up? I miss you guys".

What do you think about this guys? What are your 'friendship standards'?