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14 July 2013 @ 08:20 pm
On friendship and when to stop being so stupid  
Mood: Upset.
Listening to: ---.
Thinking: 5 more days... 5 more days...
Weather: Sunny .

My post was supposed to be quite positive today but... I just feel really bitchy and upset at the moment and need to let it all out, to the point that I feel like I need advice from you guys.

I never truly lie on my journal (or twitter). I'm just the way you perceive me here: generally very positive, always looking for the good in every person and situation. And as a result of being this way, sometimes I overlook some things that shouldn't be overlooked and end up forgiving/letting pass things that shouldn't be forgiven/let pass. Basically, I feel foolish.

My nearby friends never make the effort to meet up with me when we're barely 30 minutes away from each other's place, and when we do, the things we originally planned never happen. Remember the photoshoot Wada and Cata promised me 2 years ago? Well yeah, it never happened, but we are supposed to do it this month and they haven't even contacted me ever since I ASKED THEM WHEN THEY WANTED TO DO IT AT THE BEGINING OF JUNE.

I feel like I'm not standing for myself. Like I'm not making people respect me and I'm considering my friends people who don't even move a finger to see me and catch up with life.

How is it possible that Marie and Sae, who are over another fucking continent, would meet up with me more frequently than these two if they ever had a chance to be physically close to me? And we don't even need anything complicated: bedroom, snacks and movie times starts rolling and we don't even spend 1 fucking hour planning it. We have a 5 hour difference, unni works a lot, Marinnie studies a lot, I study, do pilates, Japanese and Korean and we STILL find the time to catch up and keep in touch! I don't think they (my nearby friends) have en excuse: if they love and care about me, they WILL make a space in their lives for me, right? Well, that isn't happening, and I'm really tired of going after them, always asking "hey, when can we meet up? I miss you guys".

What do you think about this guys? What are your 'friendship standards'?
 
 
Current Mood: upset
 
 
 
Alessa: [Hatoful Boyfriend] Oh?randomrape on July 14th, 2013 03:42 am (UTC)
Creo que entiendo lo que dices. Mi mejor amiga vive a 2 horas de distancia de mi casa y aunque normalmente ambas andamos muy ocupadas por los estudios y las cosas de la vida aún así encontramos el tiempo para vernos y hacer cosas juntas... en cambio yo solía tener una amiga que vivía a 4 cuadras de mi casa y jamás nos veíamos porque por algún motivo no tenía la voluntad de que hiciéramos nada, a pesar de que estábamos a 5 minutos de distancia.

Creo que el punto aquí es que a veces uno puede sentir que da demasiado mientras la otra persona parece no sentir el interés o simplemente "no le nace". Yo creo que cuando una amistad es verdadera y el cariño existe, ambas personas naturalmente se van a buscar y van a querer hacer cosas juntas sin que se necesite planear mucho a esforzarse.

Si estas personas que tu dices parecen no poner el interés por verte, entonces probablemente tampoco merecen que tu tes esfuerces o te sientas mal por ellas.
소라: Bambijeune_fleur on July 24th, 2013 12:29 am (UTC)
Yo creo que cuando una amistad es verdadera y el cariño existe, ambas personas naturalmente se van a buscar y van a querer hacer cosas juntas sin que se necesite planear mucho a esforzarse.

También pienso lo mismo. Sin ir más lejos, el día que fui a cenar con mi amiga de la infancia, viste que lo planeamos en 3 días nomás.

Yo la verdad estoy pensando no seguir esforzándome mucho. Tal vez de vez en cuando lo intente, porque quisiera tener una mejor amistad con ellas, pero no voy a hacerlo tan seguido como lo hacía. Prefiero poner mis energías en otras personas, realmente.