On friendship and when to stop being so stupid

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jeune_fleur

14 July 2013 @ 08:20 pm

Mood: Upset.

Listening to: ---.

Thinking: 5 more days... 5 more days...

Weather: Sunny .

My post was supposed to be quite positive today but... I just feel really bitchy and upset at the moment and need to let it all out, to the point that I feel like I need advice from you guys.

I never truly lie on my journal (or twitter). I'm just the way you perceive me here: generally very positive, always looking for the good in every person and situation. And as a result of being this way, sometimes I overlook some things that shouldn't be overlooked and end up forgiving/letting pass things that shouldn't be forgiven/let pass. Basically, I feel foolish.

My nearby friends never make the effort to meet up with me when we're barely 30 minutes away from each other's place, and when we do, the things we originally planned never happen. Remember the photoshoot Wada and Cata promised me 2 years ago? Well yeah, it never happened, but we are supposed to do it this month and they haven't even contacted me ever since I ASKED THEM WHEN THEY WANTED TO DO IT AT THE BEGINING OF JUNE.

I feel like I'm not standing for myself. Like I'm not making people respect me and I'm considering my friends people who don't even move a finger to see me and catch up with life.

How is it possible that Marie and Sae, who are over another fucking continent, would meet up with me more frequently than these two if they ever had a chance to be physically close to me? And we don't even need anything complicated: bedroom, snacks and movie times starts rolling and we don't even spend 1 fucking hour planning it. We have a 5 hour difference, unni works a lot, Marinnie studies a lot, I study, do pilates, Japanese and Korean and we STILL find the time to catch up and keep in touch! I don't think they (my nearby friends) have en excuse: if they love and care about me, they WILL make a space in their lives for me, right? Well, that isn't happening, and I'm really tired of going after them, always asking "hey, when can we meet up? I miss you guys".

What do you think about this guys? What are your 'friendship standards'?

Tags: !friends, !words to live by

Current Mood: upset

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verito_s on July 15th, 2013 02:47 am (UTC)

Así que... xD no he comentado en forever, pero vi esta entry y te entiendo, en verdad que sí, la mayoría de mis amigos del colegio viven a 15~20 min de mi casa, una estación de metro y como, 3 minutos en auto (LO CONTÉ!) pero no los veo NUNCA, en cambio mi mejor amiga vive a 45 min~1 hora y la veo mucho más, otra amiga vive realmente lejos y la veo todas las semanas :/
Un asco, además que es una la que dice "juntemonos" y tienes que hacer los planes, no sé, yo creo que cuando quieres ver a alguien, haces el esfuerzo :/ y hay veces que el esfuerzo es one sided. y da lata, pero no creo que sea porque te quieran menos, si no porque el tipo de persona que son no se preocupan tanto (pero igual obvio que da lata)

Algún día volveré al LJ xD y leeré entrada~s así que no me borres en un proximo f-cut btw.

Saludos Sora, espero que todo esté bien :D

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jeune_fleur on July 24th, 2013 12:11 am (UTC)

Graciar por comentar Vero . ¿Cómo estuviste este tiempo? Hace mil no se nada de vos >_<;; y no te preocupes, no te voy a borrar :3 a las personas con "trayectoria" en mi journal no las borro XD.

yo creo que cuando quieres ver a alguien, haces el esfuerzo :/ y hay veces que el esfuerzo es one sided. y da lata, pero no creo que sea porque te quieran menos, si no porque el tipo de persona que son no se preocupan tanto

¡Tal cual! Odio cuando solamente una sola parte quiere verse y la otra demuestra poco y nada...
Yo se que no es porque no me quieran, pero tal vez me da la sensación de que no sos TAN amiga si ni una vez al mes te quieren ver... y no es que estén ocupadas. Creeme, lo se >.<;;

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